A couple of months ago on an evening our 4 year old was tucked in sleeping for the night my husband and I were talking about our daughter. What did we think she would be when she grew up? Will her spunky attitude still be there when she is 8, 12, or 18? Or will high expectations of the world and insecurities around her dim that flame? When she marries how strong willed and patient will her husband have to be to compliment her energy and confidence but he will also need to be someone who won’t take advantage of the soft, sweet, and considerate side of her who is already so careful not to hurt feelings at such a young age already.
This brought up the letter that is in our safe, a letter to Iris that I wrote for her to read on her wedding day. The letter has been in there 10 months already and will be there for another 20 or so years until her wedding day. Whether she reads it on her own or I read it to her, I recognize life is a gift and can be cut short. In the event that I would not be able to read her that letter on such a big day in her life there are words and advice that I want to come from me. Words that I think only a mother can give. Words that I want her to read before she is married and during her marriage. In good times and bad. You see, I take this mom thing pretty seriously like so many wonderful examples of moms around me, including my own. I want to raise her and teach her and guide her through the highs and the lows of life (when she allows me of course). On that evening I reminded my husband of the letter. His response was “Yes Beck I know, but you will live until you are 90”. Hmmmm…..I wonder how much exercising I can do when I am 90 years old?
That letter brought on other parenting thoughts, what else do I want to tell Iris? What do I want her to experience and learn through example? How can I help this cute little thing be successful in life? What do I want her to know today, tomorrow, and for all the days to come that I can show her. This sparked the thoughts for below.
Dear Iris: This is what I want you to know and feel……..
If one day when Iris is grown up having a conversation with a friend and tells them that she learned even a handful of these things from her mother and father I will have some major mommy pride.
Life is worth living, not worrying about how we look or what others think of us. We will constantly be working on being better. Thats not always a bad thing….just enjoy the journey.
p.s. Thank you mom. Numbers 1-8 I learned from you.
Whether I get a vocal “This is sooo true” or a silent “…